A new book (published March 21, 2017), by Jancee Dunn, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids:http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2017/05/happy_mother_s_day_you_will_hate_your_husband_after_having_a_baby.html
https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104, probably should have been called: Don’t Get married, Or Don’t have Kids. Here is a sample of what to expect in reading this book, from an extract at Slate.com:
“Perhaps the single most widely cited piece of research on marriage and children comes from couples’ therapists John and Julie Gottman, who found that 67 percent of couples are less satisfied with their marriages after having a baby. A 2009 study of first-time parents in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that a scant 7 percent of mothers reported feeling more satisfied with their marriage, compared with 15 percent of fathers. (As of now, the available research is much more robust for heterosexual couples.) Many factors conspire to shorten a new parent’s fuse: hallucinatory fatigue, zigzagging hormones, a fraught learning curve, and, as one paper I read noted succinctly, “increased interactions with medical professionals.”