Dear Younger Me,
You spend far too much time worrying about whether you're on the right path.
I know because I remember the feeling. The impatience. The constant sense that life is happening somewhere else and everyone around you has already received the map you somehow missed. You look at other people and imagine they know exactly what they are doing. They don't.
Very few people ever do.
If I could sit across from you now, perhaps in a quiet Melbourne café on a cold Autumn morning, I would tell you something that would save you years of unnecessary anxiety: stop trying to win races that only exist in your own head.
You think success arrives all at once. You imagine there will be a day when uncertainty disappears and confidence finally settles in. That day never comes. The people you admire most are usually the ones who learned to keep moving despite uncertainty, not those who conquered it.
You are far more resilient than you realise.
The disappointments that seem unbearable now will one day become stories. The mistakes you replay at three in the morning chasing sleep away, will fade into the background. Some dreams will not work out. Some people you trust will let you down. A few opportunities you desperately wanted will slip away.
Strangely enough, those losses will often prove more valuable than the victories.
Life has a habit of teaching through subtraction.
You will learn that careers rise and fall. Jobs come and go; so don't build your life around them. Money comes and goes. Public approval is as reliable as Melbourne weather. One minute people applaud you, the next they have moved on to something else. Chasing validation is like drinking seawater. The more you consume, the thirstier you become. Too much and it destroys you inside.
Build your life on something deeper. Look to God, not the pursuit of money, or the illusion of fame.
Learn things because they are worth learning. Work because meaningful work gives structure to existence. Tell the truth because lies are self-undermining. Develop competence because competence creates freedom. Read books. Ask difficult questions. Spend less time trying to impress people and more time becoming someone worth respecting.
Take care of your health. Avoid alcohol, tobacco and drugs, including steroids, because in the long term you will come to regret it.
Not because you want to look good at the beach, but because one day you will discover that energy is life's most precious currency. Protect it. Walk more. Sleep more. Eat real food. Treat your body less like a machine to be exploited and more like a companion that must carry you through decades of challenges.
Call your parents more often. They, like you, won't be here forever.
One day you will realise that time moves only in one direction. The people who seem permanent are not permanent at all. The older you become, the more you understand that life's greatest luxury is not money. It is time with people you love.
As for relationships, stop searching for perfection.
No woman will complete you. No relationship will remove loneliness forever. The strongest partnerships are not built on fantasy but on mutual respect, loyalty, forgiveness and shared struggle. Choose character over excitement. Excitement fades. Character remains.
And while we're speaking honestly, laugh more.
The world is often absurd. Politics is absurd. Experts are sometimes absurd. Entire institutions can become absurd. Never lose your ability to find humour in the spectacle. A sense of humour is not a luxury. It is survival equipment.
You will live through strange times; absurd times.
Technology will become more powerful than anything you currently imagine. Machines will speak, write, create and persuade. Entire industries will change overnight. Many people will surrender their judgement to screens and algorithms.
Don't.
Listen to others, but think for yourself. Trends come and go. Ideologies rise and fall. Human nature changes very little.
Character still matters.
Courage still matters.
Integrity still matters.
When everything else is uncertain, those remain solid ground.
Most importantly, stop being so hard on yourself.
You are going to make mistakes. Some of them will be embarrassing. Some will be painful. A few will change the course of your life. None of them will define you unless you allow them to.
The future version of you is not disappointed.
He does not wish you had earned more money, worried more, or impressed more strangers.
He is grateful you kept going.
That is what matters.
So, take a breath.
Trust the process.
Pay attention to the people you love.
Do good work.
Tell the truth.
Trust in God.
And remember that your story is still being written.
The best chapters are not behind you.
They're ahead.
With gratitude,
Your Older Self
1 June, Melbourne, 2026
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